Dearly beloved, have you been heros and heroines the past
two weeks? I decided not to write a blog last week, so you get two weeks to
unfold your heroism. I for my part can say I accomplished my mission, I hope
you can say the same.
This blog I want to start with a hard hitting question: what
is it that makes us satisfied in life?
There is probably more than one possible answer, but I guess
a general satisfying foundation that unites us all is to be identified as
“security,” don’t we just love security? A secured job, a secured future, a
secured relationship, we love security and adore secured realms in all its
facets, all and everything has to follow a certain pattern, a pattern we are
used to that we feel safe – and furthermore that we are satisfied...but what,
if that security of ours begins to sway, what, if our safe and satisfying
status quo comes tumbling down? Not necessarily all our security facets,
not the entire secured construction we erected needs to collaps, but let me tell
you one thing: if only one facet shakes that may be enough to interfere and
weaken our entire security. It is therefore more precise to speak of our
security being of many smaller but interdependent facets that all complement
our satisfactory construction. One caused to fall often causes a chain reaction
– one little facet shaking can be enough to quake our entire security in life. What
is our common reaction? We are overwhelmed with the situation and uncertainty
surrounds us as we try to find explanations and then search for solutions; and
not necessarily in that order. “It’s just one of those days” – a common statement we make
to euphemize our insecurity, and it is our mere helplessness in these
particular situations that forces us to state such phrases as an explicatio substitute, because we are just not able to explain the novel
situation, our condition and state of mind being challenged – what was perfect
and, furthermore, safe a moment ago is all of a sudden being approached
differently accompanied by a
doubting tenor. What shall we do
to re-establish our security, how are we to deal with such a momentum
shift?
The answer to those questions, for there is only one, is not
far away, we simply have to turn on our iPod and listen to what singer William Bailey
has to say: “All we need is just a little patience.” Taken out of context,
however, depicts that phrase the most accurate answer to our decayed
satisfaction. Our hamartia is not final, it is temporary, and we will overcome
these obstacles, we may be weary, worn out, desperate, but Bailey tells us all
what to do, because all we need is just a little patience.
Our problem as human beings is our vicious impatience, we
want everything right here, right now, we don’t want it in two minutes, we want
it now; and there is to be seen a main pillar of our dissatisfaction, we are
simply not able to wait anymore. The rush of the twenty-first century? That is
a weak justification, don’t you think – nearly as vague as “everybody’s doing
it.” We, however, need to find a way back to patience. I remember back in 2002
writing letters back and forth with a really good friend from the midwest, a
letter took about six days, and that was alright, whereas now we get impatient
as soon as we do not get a reply within a couple of minutes. None of us has a
flawless life, everyone has his or her burden, and not every day is perfect,
but if we are facing “one of those days” a return to patience will help us to
get over that hardship. We have to stand firm and remain on top of the situation,
we have to brainstorm possible solutions, and confront our security threatening
issues with a genuine overdose of rationality and patience.
What is hereby important is vision for the whole frame, for
the entire image. What we lack is insight on particular situations, we look at
the now, the now does not fully satisfy us, we are at rock bottom. But the one
is of tremendous wisdom who sees the entire discourse. A problem consists of three
parts, a beginning, let us call that the inciting incident (to allude to
Aristotle’s dramatic structure), then a main part, and a solution. Once the
incident strikes us we are occupied with the sudden strike only, not keeping in
mind that there will be a time to work off the plague, and that there will be a
solution. It is therefore helpful and relevent that we do not lose sight for
what is to come regarding these struggles; and that one can achieve by being
patient, remaining calm, and staying firm. Retrospect now, what was the last
issue you had to overcome, you had to resolve? Was it not a vast relief to work
on a (re)solution, and was it not even better once the day of solution was
there? Did we not gain a gigantic amount of experience, did we not learn a
whole lot?
Fact is, hardship and issues appear, bad things occur, but
they are also there to learn and to be better prepared once they or similar
ones happen again. Once you approach situational issues, threats to your
security with sight for the whole frame, for the whole discourse, you will
suddenly recognize, and further realize, the positive experience-achieving richness
our hard times have to offer. Get a reward from it, look back once you resolve
an issue, was it worth it, can you equate and scale positive versus negative? If
we get to a point, where we can label ‘going through hard times in order to gaining
a lot of experience’ a “necessary trade-off for ourselves”, we can consider ourselves
lucky, never lose sight for the whole picture, and never forget:
All we need is just a little patience!
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